Boy or Girl?

We decided third time around to find out the sex of the baby. Jack and Finn were both surprises, which was SO much fun! But this time, I wanted to know. We both wanted to know. Once we made the decision that we would find out the sex, it was SO hard waiting. We got a gift certificate to Bella Imaging which would allow us to find out closer to 16 weeks vs. the standard 20 week dr ultrasound.

Of course anytime someone found out we were pregnant again, they would make comments like "Trying for that girl, huh" or "I bet you are hoping for a girl." I don't know why, but this really rubbed me the wrong way. Why do people care so much about the sexes of other people's kids? Or why do they insist on making comments? To be completely honest, when I was pregnant with Finn - I desperately wanted him to be a girl. I thought the entire pregnancy that he was a girl. Everything about that pregnancy was so much different than it was with Jack's. So when he popped out with a penis, my heart sank a little bit. Eventually, I got over it - obviously. After Finn was born, I was completely set on not having anymore children. Finn was a huge challenge for me and going from one to two kids kicked my butt. I thought people who had three kids were insane. Tom on the other hand would always make comments like he knew we weren't finished having kids. Or that it was too early for me to make these kind of statements. To prove to him I wasn't kidding - I got rid of all of my maternity clothes, all of our baby equipment (once Finn outgrew it). I thought I was so on top of everything. Little did I know what a huge mistake I was making. Anyways, throughout this "process" I was able to come with the terms that I probably never would have a daughter. I would miss out on the prom dress shopping, the period talks, the shaving of the legs, the make-up application, the sex talks, the drama, the dating of older guys, etc. etc. It broke my heart a little bit, but I had two amazing sons that I was so excited about. And there is something so wonderful about a mother and a son. I can't really explain it.

SO when #3 came to be - it might shock everyone and their mothers that I actually WANTED another a boy. I didn't want a daughter. Is that horrible to say? I mean, don't get me wrong, I would have been thrilled and excited either way - but if I could have hand picked #3's sex, I would have picked boy. Tom and I both just had this gut feeling (me more than Tom) that it was a boy. And sure enough - it was confirmed at our 3D ultrasound that Baby Boy Starkey # 3 was growing inside of me.

Hello, Boy!